One of the challenges about living in closer proximity to other people is understanding and respecting that those around you may not see or interact with the world in the same way you do. There are introverts and extroverts, early birds and night owls, people who cook Szechuan from scratch and those who have take out restaurants on speed dial. And that’s fine. The world is a more interesting and functional place because of this variety.
However, sometimes conflicts arise when neighbors with opposite or opposing lifestyles or habits share limited space. If you are a person who needs absolute quiet to work or go to sleep, you will likely not appreciate the musician next door practicing the drums at 2 AM. Very sociable people tend to have large social circles, and their neighbors may get tired of seeing these friends all the time in the halls. And no one really enjoys hearing the couple next door fighting…or not fighting.
There are mature and productive ways of dealing with these kinds of problems, however, and putting them to use can prevent problems from escalating from minor annoyances to full-blown war tactics.
- Take the time to establish clear lines of communication with your neighbors. People who know and like each other are more likely to care about each other’s feelings and boundaries. You may not have the time or interest to forge friendships with everyone around you, but, at the very least, introduce yourself and take the time to tactfully explain your needs. This is a great first step in heading off conflict.
- Instead of criticizing behavior, come up with suggestions for an alternate plan that would help. No one likes to be on the end of a scold, but most reasonable people will respond to suggestions that loud noises be kept at a minimum after 11 P.M., for instance.
- Be open to suggestions yourself. You may think that the way you do things is the way to do things, but it’s possible that other people may find some of your habits troublesome as well. If they come to you and want to discuss something, do not immediately take offense. Instead, listen and see if some kind of compromise can be made.
- If you can’t come to agreement with your neighbor or they are openly hostile to your suggestions, talk to management about what measures can be taken. We at Meadows Crossing want to be here for our tenants and help them to make the most of their time here with us. Communication is the key to maintaining a harmonious relationship among the many different kinds of people who live here.
Meadows Crossing has long been in this business. We make it our priority to build and maintain community here at Grand Valley, and that community begins with positive relationships among neighbors. If we can be of help to you in reaching that goal, don’t hesitate to call us today.